Friday, October 11, 2013

Remembering LaVerne


Yesterday was the 5th anniversary of LaVerne's passing.  On my calendar was the note "LaVerne's Day", and it was.  I thought of her all day long and it was good.  I didn't shed a single tear because all of my memories were of the good times and not the bad. 

Last night I drank some Hogue Riesling, one of her favorites, and watched the TV show "Glee" as they said farewell to Finn, the character who died in real life from an overdose.  It was fitting for me as I continued to say goodbye to this fine lady who was my wife, my lover and my best friend.  I still miss her and guess I always will. 

Lynn and I took a long walk in the Pink Beds yesterday and it was gorgeous!  We stopped a lot along the way and talked about "what's the main thing?"  What's the single most important thing?  Lynn has been searching for this answer since a horoscope brought it up last week.  So I've been trying to help her find her answer.  I found mine the day LaVerne died and it's still with me.

Feel God's presence.  That's my main thing.  And when I need that comfort, that support, that knowing that all is truly well, I'm still able to do it.  It was like a gift from LaVerne and what a treasure it is! 

On November 1st we're going on a Lazoom comedy bus tour to celebrate the Day of the Dead, followed by a bonfire at Hanger Hall, where the Leader of Ritual for Jubilee! lives.  This will be a new experience and I'm really looking forward to it.  We will send messages to those who have passed on and LaVerne will be at the top of my list. 

My therapist told me that my relationship with LaVerne would change and it has.  She is still a part of my life and always will be.  She taught me a lot and gave me a lot and I'm forever grateful. 

And so again this year I say "bon voyage baby!"